To receive the gift of unconditional love, you have to be able to give love unconditionally to YOURSELF and then others. What is unconditional love? It is love given without expectations or attachments and it is given openly, freely with grace (loving even when it may not be easy). If you are not able to first love yourself unconditionally, then you are constantly looking for the “catch” or the pay back when love is given. Do you ever get a compliment and feel the need to reciprocate immediately? The complement could be given without expectation- just to express love and appreciation, but, if you look for the catch, or the condition, you are not able to fully, comfortably receive it.
Look at how you love yourself- sit with it, examine it. Do you love yourself when you look good, when you achieve, or receive outside affirmation? Or are you able to love yourself no matter what, shadow side and all? I know, that’s a tough one. Knowing, acknowledging the shadow side, or dark, warty side of ourself and understanding how it serves you or makes you YOU is the first step. It is ok to want to improve upon something, or want to soften a wart, but… let go of perfection and LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY. We are often good at giving others that unconditional love, especially our kids, but… work on loving yourself or, if you already do, embrace that self love without labels, guilt or reservation! Congratulations- You’re an unconditional lover!!!
Happy Valentine’s Day, Happy February. Spread the unconditional LOVE.